While it may seem easy to be a ‘glass half full’ kind of person, staying positive can be a hard feat to tackle. As an entrepreneur I have learned that positivity requires constant hard work. You’re going to face challenges, hardships and failure, but it’s how you view and overcome those obstacles that make you a positive person. I found that my biggest difficulty was how to channel my negative, self-deprecating thoughts. It took me a significant amount of time and effort to learn how to look at those thoughts proactively rather than reacting rash and responding to people or events in a negative manner.
Being positive is a choice. How you choose to respond to a conflict reflects the kind of person you are. To make room for optimism, here are the nine types of negative thinking to remove from your life.
- All or nothing thinking
- Negative self-labeling
- Mind reading
- Disregarding/Taking advantage of the present
- Dwelling on the past
- Jumping to conclusions
A few years ago, I made a promise to myself that I was no longer going to be stuck in this negative way of thinking. I was going to try to be more proactive than reactive. That one promise has completely changed my life.
For as long as I could remember, I had handled stressful situations poorly causing unnecessary confrontations and drama. Once I began recognizing those negative thought patterns, the rest slowly fell into place. I realized that these persistent pessimistic thoughts were unproductive, self-belittling, and could create deep rooted negative emotions. In my case? Anger.
From then on, I chose to utilize a more positive reaction to my problems. While this didn’t come without difficulty, now I can hardly remember feeling angry anymore. I have chosen to go with the flow and live life to the fullest, because it is truly so short. Nothing is worth the time and energy it takes to be angry.
Despite the bad choices I’ve made in my life, I believe that everything happens for a reason. Since I started practicing kundalini yoga I became the “Watcher” of my mind. I am aware of my thoughts. I don’t act on them – rather watch them and if they irrational and negative I simply let them pass.
By bringing your conscious attention to your thinking patterns you bring in a new higher dimension of awareness. You become mindful.
Accept the thought. Observe it. And then let it go.